Our Parenting Tactics
Do nothing (even parenting) out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves (even your children), not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others. Philippians 2:3-4
Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court. Psalm 127:3-5
These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6: 6-9
Start children off on the way they should go,and even when they are old they will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. Punish them with the rod and save them from death. Proverbs 23:13-14
Discipline your children, and they will give you peace;they will bring you the delights you desire. Proverbs 29:17
Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Colossians 3:21 (Ephesians 6:4)
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Ephesians 6:1-3 (Exodus 20:12)
But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God. 1 Timothy 5:4
Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 1 Timothy 5:8
In Regards To Leaving The Home:
If a child wants to independently move out on their own, that is their business, and we will be supportive of that decision, yet they are welcome to stay as long as they contribute to the everyday workload we carry without problems. Also, they must be saving financially for their future as well so a job is a must, whether we provide it or they find their own. We do not and will never charge rent.
We encourage them to seek God’s will and take their time in deciding for their futures. We take our schooling very seriously and hold our children accountable for good grades. We ask 2 years of college at least. We find it a bit crazy to expect a child out of the nest at 18, even up until 25 (or longer even), as long as we have no issues in contributing around the farm and house and are continually seeking the Will of God for their future lives. We are all involved in morning Bible study/devotions to keep that pursuit fresh in their minds.
God had given Adam a woman (wife). Beforehand, it was just him and God with the animals. They had fellowship together. He seen that Adam was lonely and put him to sleep in order to create a woman from the man himself. 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 (Ephesians 5:31)
A healthy, God-ordained realignment of the parent-child relationship is critical as we believe upon marriage our child is to cling to their spouse and do life on their own as we agree no one is to come in between husband and wife.
‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Matthew 19:5-6